Eulogy
Write a eulogy that does them justice
When someone dies, there is rarely much time or energy left for writing a eulogy. Yet it has to do something that seems almost impossible: tell a whole life in a few minutes, so that everyone recognises the person in it.
RedeStudio helps you gather and order your memories without needing to know everything at once. You write down what comes to mind, RedeStudio gently asks for more, and you get a first draft to revise in your own time. That works for family members as much as for funeral celebrants after meeting the family.
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How RedeStudio helps
- Gentle questions about their life, character, favourite sayings and memories. Every question is optional, and you can simply paste in your notes from a conversation with the family.
- Anything that must not be mentioned, such as an illness or a family rift, you note once. The speech leaves it out and never adds anything that isn't true.
- From your material, a dignified first draft is written with the help of AI, at the length you need. You adjust it section by section and print it as a large-type reading copy.
How to structure a eulogy
Welcome and occasion
Greet those who have gathered and say why everyone is here. A calm opening gives the listeners something to hold on to.
Their life
The main chapters in order, told with images rather than as a CV: not only when and where, but how.
Who they were
Character, quirks, passions, favourite sayings and one or two memories in which everyone recognises them. There is room for a smile here too.
What remains
What this person leaves behind: values, habits, traces in the family and among friends. That often comforts more than any set phrase.
Words of farewell
A last goodbye, with a poem, a blessing or a moment of silence depending on the service, and a handover to what comes next.
Five tips for your speech
Gather memories together
Ask siblings, grandchildren, friends and former colleagues for their stories. Often someone else remembers the scene that ends up moving everyone.
Honest, not polished
A person with rough edges is easier to recognise than a flawless one. Quirks told with love comfort more than a string of superlatives.
The cause of death can stay out
You don't have to mention illness or dying. Agree with the family on what should be said and what shouldn't.
Write for speaking
Short sentences, marked pauses, large type. If your voice gives way, a sip of water and a glance at the next line help.
Have a plan B
Give a copy to someone you trust. If you can't go on, they can finish reading. Just knowing that takes a lot of pressure off.
Frequently asked questions
How long should a eulogy be?
A eulogy by a family member or friend usually lasts three to ten minutes. Funeral celebrants often speak for 15 to 20 minutes, because their words carry the whole service. Allow about 100 words per minute, as people speak more slowly at funerals.
How do I start a eulogy?
With a simple welcome and a sentence that names the occasion, for example: “We are here today to say goodbye to Margaret Wilson.” Then a personal image can follow: a favourite saying, a place or a gesture everyone knows.
Is it okay to use humour in a eulogy?
Yes, if it suits the person and stays affectionate. A lighter memory can bring relief and shows who someone really was. RedeStudio leaves humour out by default and only uses it if you choose that tone.
What if I didn't know the person well?
For funeral celebrants that is the norm. What matters is a good conversation with the family. You can paste in your notes from it; RedeStudio organises them and shows you, through targeted follow-up questions, what is still missing.
Is my information kept confidential?
Yes. Your input is stored encrypted on servers in Germany and never used to train AI models. If you enter the date of the funeral, the speech is deleted automatically 30 days afterwards by default.
Begin with what comes to mind
You don't need to know everything. A few memories are enough to start, and you can add the rest at your own pace. No account needed.
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